How To Set New Year Goals That You Will Achieve
How to set New Year goals is the perfect topic for the month of December. In the personal growth community there is a lot of talk at this time of the year about setting goals and achieving things, but since I've been giving the Emotional intelligence workshops, I have seen that the "emotions" part of this process is unfortunately and usually out if the equation. All of our decisions are fundamentally rooted in our emotions. Everything that we do is either to avoid pain or to experience the pleasure and emotional fulfilment. When it comes to setting goals, writing down things like more exercise, changing the diet, achieving X, Y, Z... can be easy, but statistics are showing that 92% of people quit their New Year's resolution in February itself! The reason: the pain that they experience while doing the actions steps in order to achieve their goals. I have also seen in my work as a life coach that many of my clients have been setting professional goals for many years, for their companies or businesses, but never their personal goals. If we miss the personal goals part we end up being successful, or even rich, but... unfulfilled and unhappy if we neglected our relationships, self care, health, and emotional wellbeing. In this blog post I want to help you to set goals that you will not drop of by the end of February, and that will make you happier in the year to come! So, let's begin...
How To Set New Year Goals That You WILL Achieve
In this blog post I am going to guide you trough the process of setting professional, personal, and noble goals, and at the end I will give you some motivation hacks to help you merge the action steps with the pleasure instead of pain, so that you can persist with your goals throughout the year. Don't forget while setting goals to set the SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-framed) goal.
***** First - define it in a precisely. Being rich is not a goal - earning 10K$ per month is. For example if your goal is to "earn more money", earning 10$ more will probably not make much of a difference in your life just like for example losing 1 kg of weight. So, be very specific with setting your goals!
***** Give your goals a time frame of a year, break them into smaller chunks if needed (for example loosing 5 kg, writing two blog posts, completing one chapter of a book... every month) and then make sure that you also write the actions steps that you are going to take to achieve your goals. Setting achievable goals is the most important part of the process, as it will make it or brake it.
***** Make sure that the target you set for yourself in 2020. is achievable (DO-able) and REALISTIC.
***** Decide a reward for yourself when you reach your goals, something BIG and exciting which will be motivation enough o you to persist in your journey.
***** Before setting your goals for the next year, make sure to reflect on the year behind!
REFLECTING ON THE YEAR BEHIND (SUCCESS, FAILURES, LIFE LESSONS LEARNED)
First of all, you want to reflect on the the best moments of the year behind you. To do so, write down the answers to the following questions:
***** What were the happiest moments of the past year?
***** What were the most memorable experiences and things you are most grateful for in the year behind?
***** What things did you learn this year? How did you grow professionally and as a human being?
***** What were your biggest achievements this year and things that you are most proud of yourself for completing, learning, and accomplishing?
***** What was your biggest contribution to other people's lives in the year behind? In what way did you inspire, help, support, and improved lives of other people in your life, your work, and in your community?
After doing this self reflection, it is time to contemplate on your failures, difficult moments or sad and tragic events you have been trough, in order to let go of it, forgive yourself and other people who have hurt you, and carry on the important life lessons into the new year. Write down:
***** What were your biggest failures and the most difficult moments in the year behind?
***** What important life lessons did you learn from these experiences? How these experiences have changed you as a person?
***** What can you do or change in your life next year in order to avoid repeating same mistakes or hurting situations next year? Is there anything that you wanted to achieve but you did not or could not?
***** What are your biggest regrets about the last year? Is there anything that you think you could have done better or give a try and you didn't?
***** Are there any goals that you have set for yourself in this time last year and you could not accomplish? If yes, contemplate for a moment what could have been the reason you did not? Do you still want to pursue those goals and recycle them as new New Year's resolutions or you feel that it is not something that you still truly desire?
SETTING YOUR PERSONAL NEW YEAR GOALS
Personal goals are set with the intention to achieve objectives that will result in the betterment of yourself and your life. They include your self development and spiritual growth, health goals, and relationship goals.
You can use the questions below to set your personal goals for the New Year:
***** What are the things that you want to improve or change about yourself in the New Year?
***** What are the things that you want to learn or master in the New Year?
***** What are the life changes that you want to make in the New Year in order to feel more happy and fulfilled in your life?
***** What are the experiences that you want to have in the New Year (for example visiting certain places, traveling to particular destinations, reading certain books, doing some fun or new activities...?).
***** What are the habits that no longer serve you that you want to let go of in the New Year?
***** What are your health goals for the New Year (for example reducing X amount of weight, eating more greens, drinking more water, regular exercise...).
***** What are your relationship goals in the New Year? For example, do you want to improve any of your relationships? Do you want to be more social and attend more parties or invite people over to your home more often for dinner? Do you want to let go of certain toxic relationships or go out more often to meet new fiends, or potential romantic partner, or to spend more time with your partner (if in relationship)? Do you need to forgive to someone who has hurt you in the past?
***** What are your spiritual goals (you can include here anything that will help you either in spiritual awakening and/or in attaining the inner piece, like meditation, prayer, yoga, learning the spiritual knowledge, occult knowledge... Spiritual goals can also include reading spiritual books, attending certain workshops or signing up for coaching programs or retreats, traveling to pilgrimage, manifesting with the Moon, connecting to Nature more, connecting to certain divinity, chanting certain mantras, oracle cards, visiting temples or other sacred places, inner self-discovery work, certain rituals or ceremonies, practicing Law Of Attraction... or whatever else will help you to tune into whatever the world "spiritual-ity" means to you.
SETTING YOUR PROFESSIONAL & MONEY GOALS
Professional goals are objectives that will help you to be more successful at the work that you do and progress in your career. They can also include the amount of money you want to make, and any skill development that you need to master in order to grow professionally in your field, or to grow your business.
***** What are your career goals for the next year? (For example working on new projects, enrolling X more clients per month or in a year into your business, selling X amount of products, receiving a promotion, improving your leadership/communication/copywriting... skills. completing certain certification or education...). Do you want to learn new language or a skill, or attend a training that could help you grow in your career or your business? Do you want to work with a mentor or a coach or enrol in particular coaching program? Where do you see yourself or your business in the end of the next year? What are the things that you will commit doing in order to boost your career (or business) and your income? Do you want to change your job, make the transition in your career, or start a new business?
***** What are your money goals for the New Year? What are your financial goals for the year to come? Do you want to save certain amount of money or invest the certain amount of money in your career goals or in your business or passive income stream? How much money (be specific) you want to earn in the next year? What action steps or mindset shifts do you need to start doing in order to make it happen?
SETTING your NOBLE GOALS
Noble goals are the goals of our personal contribution to the world and making the positive impact with our gifts and the work that we are doing, generosity, charity, and leaving a legacy in our life.
Noble goals are important to set, as one of the basic six psychological human needs is - contribution! No matter how much money we make, how successful career we build... we will not feel truly fulfilled in life without the sense of pursuing our life's purpose or making the positive contribution in the world. As a life coach, I witness this so many times when women who are on C-level management positions or running very successful online businesses (while making lot of money, some even working on the beach in Bali or while traveling the world) sign up for life coaching with me because they feel they are not truly fulfilled in their life - even if they have achieved everything that they ever wanted!
That's why it is important that we set personal, spiritual, and noble goals for the year to come, alongside our professional goals. Your noble goals will depend of your own unique life purpose, gifts, talents, financial situation, and the amount of power or influence that you have within your workplace, career, community... They may include financial aid to someone or some NGO with a noble cause, or they may include you volunteering certain amount of hours in a week for a good cause, or you donating the money to trusted NGO with a good cause that you want to support, or even daily actions like supporting small business owners, organic farmers, preserving the tradition of your country, creative people and artists... by investing money in their products and services. Our noble goal can even be deciding to put more effort in preserving the environment and Mother Earth - going more green, carrying a tote bag, using eco-friendly cleaners, buying more organic food produce, donating money to wild animals sanctuaries, and stuff like that...
If you are not sure what could be your noble goals, I encourage you to contemplate on the things that really matter to you or something painful that you have been trough and think on how you can help other people who are going trough the same thing. Is there anything that you can do to help others who are in similar situation, or knowledge you can share with others via writing a blog or a book or starting a YouTube channel? Is there any knowledge, skill, experience, or advice that you can share with others, which could help other people and make their life more inspiring, beautiful, richer, meaningful, happier...? Can you give a motivational or educational speech on some important topic in your community? Can you volunteer for some good cause in your community or donate some of your money?
Be aware of how much you can give from the heart, whether you want to donate your time, money, knowledge, skills, pro bono work, inspirational and helpful content and advice on social media or your blog... without burning yourself out mentally, emotionally, and financially. Donation and contribution of any kind should come from the place of abundance, compassion, and empathy tahter than form a place os scarcity, regret, or desire to "show of " (ego).
MOTIVATION HACKS TO KEEP YOU YOUR WILLPOWER STRONG THROUGHOUT THE YEAR
Whenever your motivation drops down, remember your WHY - it will help you to keep going.
***** Give your goals exciting name. I usually "forbid" my clients who have goals of losing weight to call the exercise and workout - "exercise" because it sounds painful and hard, and they have negative association with it. I suggest them to rename it as "body movement". It sounds much more exciting and they are much more motivated. Our brain responds differently to certain words, as they are associated with particular emotions (positive or negative) and visual images in our mind! So, make sure that your goals have such an exciting name that when you think of them you feel ignited with motivation and very much inspired to take action!
***** It is important that you chose the most exciting action steps as possible for you, which are matching your interests, skills, and interests the most. Change is anyway painful - don't make it more painful by setting goals with action steps that are PAIN-ful! Set your goals in a way that you will be inspired to pursue them - that will give you motivation to persist.
My life coaching clients usually tell me that I make the change easy for them. It is because I help them to set goals and achieve them in such a way that they feel HAPPY, INSPIRED and EXCITED to work on them, not drained, exhausted, disappointed, forced...
For example, if you want to exercise more in the next year, and you hate going to the gym, writing a goal of going to the gym three times a week will be very painful for you to achieve and most probably you will drop of in February itself, or even sooner. Think about what are the "body movement" activities that you would enjoy doing and chose them instead. If you like to dance, then dance classes or Zumba fitness would be perfect for you, as you would feel much more motivated to go dancing three times in a week, than working out in the gym.
***** Even if you are already having a vision board make a vision board for the year 2020. If you have (just) a vision board, then you are not committing to live and experience and achieve all the things (goals) pinned on it in the next year, but you are waiting for someday... and therefor it becomes your fantasy board! If you make the vision board for a specific year, then you will PUSH yourself to COMPLETE and EXPERIENCE everything from that vision bard in the next year itself! That way, you will give it a timeframe!
***** Chose a mantra or one word which you will keep on your vision board or write daily in your planner to remind yourself on your vision and focus for the year, like for example RICH, SPIRITUAL, I AM ENOUGH, I LOVE MYSELF, I AM WORTHY, SUCCESS(FUL), MONEY MAGNET, ABUNDANCE, PIECE, ADVENTURES, GROWTH, light, spirit, confidence, brave, love, healthy...
DID YOU KNOW?
**** Oprah Winfrey states that one of the reasons she is so successful is working with her life coach Martha Beck for over 20 years?
***** Working with a life coach can help you not only to achieve your goals, but also to improve your overall well-being, resilience, and reduce stress, anxiety and depression (as confirmed in rigorous Psychology research studies, performed by Anthony Grant, Ph.D. director of the Coaching Psychology Unit of the School of Psychology, University of Sydney).
***** Life coach can help you achieve much more in less time, than if you would do it on your own (statistics from the American Society for Training and Development provide insight that a person’s probability of achieving a goal increases from 50% to 95% when one has a coach/mentor to keep the him/her accountable and helps putting the idea and plan into action!). That is the power of having someone to keep you accountable and having an expert to give you the right strategy and action steps that can help you to achieve your goals much faster and easier that you could do on your own.
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*** Set your personal, career & money, spiritual, and noble goals for 2020.
*** Review your 2019. year and look for any behavioural patterns or limiting beliefs that were holding you back this year, so that you can overcome them during 2020.
*** Get clarity about what it is that you want to change, achieve, or improve in 2020. about yourself, or in your career, relationships, lifestyle... and set a Do-able, realistic, and achievable ACTION plan how to achieve it (aligned with the time, money, resources, and limitations that you currently have).
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