New Year resolutions - Make 2017. Your Best Year
This year has been the best year of my life, really magical, it was like living my vision board one picture at the time and in this post I want to share with you steps and tools that helped me to have my best year ever! I am looking forward to share my year in review with you in the last week of December, and my #BestOf2017 moments on Instagram (if you do not follow me over there, you should definitely change it !:))! After having such a magical year, I totally believe now that all dreams do come true and EVERYTHING is possible!
Setting goals is really important, and at this time of the year, statistics are showing that more than 50% of people over the globe are making New Year’s Resolutions. But, there is another sad statistics: only about 8% of people actually achieve their goals by the end of the year. Other 92% set the same New Year resolutions in December next year, sometimes year after year! In the life coaching world, we call them “recycled New Years resolutions”.
So, obviously, the vision and goals setting is not enough to keep the motivation up and to actually manifest our BIG dreams into reality. I will share some of the powerful tips with you in this post, that I’ve learn form my mentors and coaches this year that had helped me to manifest my own dreams.
1. WANT IT BADLY ENOUGH: CONVERT YOUR “SHOULD” INTO A“MUST”
As Tony Robbins would wisely say:
No one has ever changed any negative behavioural or thinking pattern, or life circumstances, by saying, thinking, and believing “I should change/do/start/begin/stop…”. Never! It happens every year, when we make New Year’s resolutions, that we say or think that we should quit smoking, should start exercising more, should change our job, should start this new website, or blog, or project, should work with a life coach, should work on _______, but we all know how that ends. Yes, that same New Year’s resolution gets recycled each and every year.
It is only when we say to ourselves that we MUST change ______, stop _____, start ________, practice ______, learn ______,…. that we actually commit and do it!
Whatever your #1 goal is for 2018. you need to make that goal non-negotiable, whether it be eating healthy, losing weight, changing the job, moving into another place, starting your blog or business, practicing some form of physical activity, getting the education on credentials you want, hitting your dream income in your business, improving your financial situation, or else.
I had for a long time "desire" to earn five figure income a month, but it was not until March this year, when I converted my wishful thinking into a MUST and actionable goal, and really started working on hitting that goal, that I have seen my income grow significantly!
2. CHANGE YOUR FOCUS: WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS!
What we focus on, it expands, so if we keep on focusing on the things we do not want to have, live, or experience, these things will be showing up more often, keep on residing in our life, and even expanding! We have to intentionally switch our focus towards the things we DO WANT to experience and achieve!
In order to build the abundance mindset this year, to achieve my goal of 10K$ income per month, I chose intentionally to focus as much as I could on luxury and abundance. I was surrounding my self with luxury, visiting luxury stores, living more luxury experiences (like having dinners at five star restaurants, traveling to luxury vacation spots, relaxing at five start hotel SPAs, treating myself with luxury beauty treatments, wearing beautiful dresses and expensive bags…).
I was unreceptive on any negative talk about the money and how it’s hard to earn money, or talks about “not having the money” or complaints of other people about the money. I just knew that these conversations won’t serve me to shift my mindset from scarcity to abundance! At the same time, I was feeding my mind with interviews, books, podcasts and talks about the money, abundance, and tips from millionaires and billionaires. I signed up for coaching program on prosperity and wealth mindset, to get the help from a coach in adopting the mindset of a rich person.
GRATITUDE IS ALSO A POWERFUL WAY TO SHIFT OUR FOCUS FROM LACK TO ABUNDANCE, FROM WHAT WE DO NOT HAVE TO WHAT WE DO HAVE, FROM STRESS TO BLESS.
3. CHANGE YOUR STORY
We cannot change our life, our personality, our habits, or our lifestyle, if we keep on telling ourselves (and the people) the same, disempowering, old, negative… story! I love the quote from American pastor Joel Osteen:
If you want to start living different life, you have to start telling different story! Story of wellness, instead of illness. Story of love, instead of disappointment, hurt, and loneliness. Story of abundance, instead of scarcity. Sorry of thriving, success, and growth, instead of story of failure.
If you keep telling to yourself (and other people around you) how you are sick, you are broke or struggling with money, lonely, its hard to get clients or sell your services, there are not good men out there, that you are a “smoker”, that you are “fat” and that’s just your metabolism, you are not good with money… or whatever… that story and that same painful experience will keep on hunting you till the rest of your life!
Whatever is the story that you are telling yourself for years, you need to stop telling yourself that story in order to see your life changing next year the way you want it to be! But, what about being “honest” and “realistic”? You do not need to lie to anyone that your life is “perfect” or tell the things that are not true, but instead just start seeing things from different, positive perspective and talk about it in that way.
Like for example, I would not possibly claim to earn 10K$ per month if that is not true, but while working on achieving this goal, I am talking about my income in a very positive way, expressing gratitude and appreciation for the income that I am earning, talking empowering language like that I am learning from the best coaches in the industry, I am working hard on my marketing and business strategy, and that I expect to hit the biggest income ever this year. When I started telling this story, adopting these new rituals, and empowering my mindset for prosperity with the help of a coach, my income skyrocketed!
4. CHANGE YOUR RITUALS
We cannot change anything in our life if we do not change our habits, and habits consist from rituals. Rituals are action steps we make on a regular basis. No matter what goals you set for yourself at this time of the year and what New Years resolutions you make, if you do not change your rituals, this time next year, you will be at the same place where you are now, or even in the worse condition!
Successful people in any area have rituals, also the unsuccessful ones. People who are successful in having fit, strong, and healthy body have different set of rituals than those who don’t. Successful students have different set of rituals than those who are failing the exams often. Successful career is based on rituals that lead to success.
What is it that you want to achieve? Think of the people who are successful in what you want to achieve and at the place you want to be. What kind of rituals they are practicing? Your ideal weight will be your reality next year if you adopt the rituals of a fit person (for example regular exercise and healthier diet). Successful business is never a coincidence, as there are rituals that back it up (consistent action steps, serving greatly to customers and clients and giving a lot of value, investing in coaching and mentoring, branding and marketing, reinvesting back in business in order to see the growth, adopting the mindset for success…). And the list goes on…
In order to see your dreams and goals unraveling in front of you next year, start changing the rituals that got you to this painful place where you are now and start adopting new rituals that will lead you to success!
OLD HABITS DIE HARD, BUT THEIR DEATH WILL GIVE BIRTH TO YOUR NEW GOALS AND WILDEST DREAMS!
5. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE AT THE PLACE YOU WANT TO BE!
There is an unwritten rule which says that the amount of money we earn is an average sum of what five people we spend the most time with are earning. Take a look around you and think about with whom you are spending time with? Then think about what are the goals you want to achieve in 2018.? Are you surrounded with the right crowd? Whatever your friends and family members talk, believe or do will rub of on you, wether you want it or not. It is said that we cannot succeed while wearing the costume of failure. Negative beliefs and poor mindset is a heavy costume of failure. If you want to succeed in anything, you need to look up to and surround yourself with people you want to become alike, not the other way around!
I intentionally made many business besties this year, as I wanted to surround myself with other girl bosses who are successful. I was totally unreceptive of any talk how money is hard to earn and how there is never enough money... and so on. Instead, I chose to feed my mind with books on how rich people think, motivational talks on success and millionaire mindset. I chose to surround myself with people who are supportive of my goals and who want me to thrive.
Books that we are reading, people we are following on Instagram and Facebook and the content they share, magazines we are reading, conversations we are having, shows we are watching and listening to... they all affect the way we think and since we know that our thoughts create our reality, we have to be very selective of the information we feed our mind with!
6. do not miss the train if you feel of the wagon!
Just when we start working on our BIG goal, things will start happening to test our mental toughness: we may catch cold, our website may crash, we may travel or have some unplanned events coming to our way, we may experience some emotional downfall... and we may fall of the wagon!
I had a plan to start my YouTube channel, where I would post videos with tips and advice. But... Himalayas trip happened. After Himalayas trip severe flu happened, and I was on bed for two weeks unable to talk even to my mother and my clients properly! Workshops in New Delhi with my dear colleague Lata Singh started happening. Then, I had a website disaster... So, I fell of the wagon with posting and making videos on YouTube. But, I'm not quitting on my goal. I will make it happen. Yes, it did not happen when and how I planned it, but that is not an excuse or a reason enough that I throw in the towel!
WHEN UNPLANNED AND UNCONTROLLED THIGNS HAPPEN, WE MAY FALL OF THE WAGON AND MISS AN ACTION STEP OR TWO TOWARD OUR GOALL, PERHAPS EVEN THREE. BUT WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT IS TO CATCH ANOTHER WAGON, INSTEAD OF BEATING OURSELVES FOR SO LONG FOR MISSING THE WAGON THAT WE END UP MISSING THE ENTIRE TRAIN (A.K.A. QUITING ON OUR GOAL)!
7. TAKE THE QUANTUM LEAP
"Atomic electron transition is a change of an electron from one energy level to another within an atom or artificial atom. It appears discontinuous as the electron "jumps" from one energy level to another in a few nanoseconds or less. It is also known as atomic transition, quantum jump, or quantum leap." (Wikipedia)
Just like an electron makes the quantum leap in the atom, we can make the quantum leap ("sudden large increase") in our life. We can achieve massive success in a short period of time, instead of waiting for years by taking massive action and by making a bold move we have never done before and which can take us from here to there much faster!
This quantum leap is achieved when we make massive action step to achieve our goal. When we make the leap of faith and do something extraordinary we have never done before, like hiring a coach or a mentor who will help us to achieve our goals MUCH faster and greater than if we would have done it on our own.
For me, the quantum leap this year was getting a five figure month income strategy from a business coach which helped me to skyrocket my income! Singing up for coaching programs by coaches I admire and learning very powerful personal growth and Law Of Attraction techniques which helped me not only to achieve amazing things this year, but also to become much better life coach and help my clients immensely! It was deciding that I will not offer just life coaching, but life transformation, and that I will not just give the advice, but I will teach my clients personal growth tools and techniques which I've learned so that when Our coaching time is over, they can help themselves!
ADDITIONAL TIP: YOUR ONE WORD!
Think of how would you want your year to look like and feel like, and chose your one word for 2018.
This one word will be like your guiding start while making decisions in the upcoming year and also a reminder of your BIG vision.
IT COULD BE INSPIRE, BELIVE, GREATNESS, CHANGE, VIBRANT, THRIVE, CONFIDENCE, COURAGE, LOVE, ADVENTURE...